Less is more…than enough

To tell you the truth I am exhausted. In my quest to keep busy until I leave has bit me in the ass as I knew it would. The past six months has seen me juggling motorbike lessons, learning how to swim, starting a new degree and finishing half of my 1st year subjects, mentoring a teenage girl who lives in a children’s home, continuing my Italian lessons and trying to find time to meet my Italian friend when I can so that I can practise.  All this and still working a 9 to 5, just writing it all down exhausts me.

So yes apparently I can’t do it all. Seeing as the past 6 months were so chaotic I’m going to take the next 6 very slowly. I’m going to eliminate  as much activity as possible. Taking on too much can be extremely stressful and detrimental to your health, trust me. I’ve been getting sick, spraining things and suffering from more headaches than I usually do.

That doesn’t mean I’m going to do absolutely nothing because I am addicted to learning. I’ve got a photography course that starts in a month that I am looking forward to with fast forward photography. So I’ve just got to figure out what to cut out of my life but for now I am just going to take it easy and watch Friends re-runs.


How to say no

Yes Man is one of my favourite Jim Carrey movies. If you haven’t seen Yes Man than I suggest you do, it’s not a recent movie but you should still be able to get it. Basically his life sucks, he goes to a seminar/conference thingy and then has to say yes to everything and I mean everything to open himself up to new opportunities and ultimately happiness.

There is one flaw in this theory but due to suspension of disbelief in films we kind of just roll with it. In real life however it is not possible to say yes to everything. Yet for some reason people still do so with dire consequences.

Let’s take a look at a few examples shall we?

Work: Your colleague or manager wants you to assist or take on more work even though you already up to your eyeballs in work. Do we say no? Of course not, we take on the extra work, curse under our breath all because we don’t want to be seen as not being a team player.

Home/Family: A family member asks for help. We say yes in most instances only because we feel obliged to help out but all this does is cause resentment and rifts. Not helping does not mean we don’t want to nor does it mean we love our family any less.

Friends/Social: Group of friends dying to try out new clubs or skydiving or basically anything you can not see yourself doing ever. Do not succumb to peer pressure. We are not in high school anymore and you should not have to apologise for who you are. Bow out gracefully.

Relationships: We all know that relationships with significant others are complicated and one person ends up compromising more than the other. Too often we agree to do things that we are not comfortable and happy with. The only advice is to keep the lines of communication open.

A few tips on how to say No:

  • “No, I can’t” –  no need to apologise or explain yourself.
  • “I’d love to but don’t have time/money/ability/etc” – you get the point, just be honest. People can tell when we are being sincere or not.
  • “Can you give me some time to think about it?”  – sometimes we make rash decisions in haste, giving ourselves time to think things through will make it easier for you to say no. It also shows the person asking for help that you are not dismissing them outright.
  • “Unfortunately not, but I am able to assist by doing/giving X – you don’t have to be able to solve the person’s problem completely, any form of help is better than none.
  • “No, but I do know the perfect person who would be able to help”

For some reason we tell ourselves by saying no, we are being selfish. Ask yourself if over-commiting or agreeing to something you do not want to do is healthy. Saying no is not easy but with some practise it is possible, start by saying no to little things that you won’t feel too guilty about and work your way up to the big stuff. And remember to be as respectful as possible.


10 Things I have learnt this week

1. Windy weather can be a real buzz kill.

2. People love talking about themselves but rarely want to listen to others.

3. These people also love the sound of their own voices.

4. Helping others makes you feel good about yourself.

5. My cell phone can double as a compact mirror (neat).

6. I have amazing self-restraint except when it comes to shutting this big ol mouth of mine.

7. Always be prepared to roll with the punches.

8. Never order a platter for 2 and think you can eat it all by yourself.

9. People might think you are crazy if you laugh out loud whilst sitting all by your lonesome self.

10. Despite my reserved nature I can make friends anywhere and with anyone, yes even the cute bartender at the strip club.

Humorous, movies

I’ve got talent

“Watch this” I tell my friend TA just as an old re-run of Friends is about to start. We’ve just finished watching Fresh Prince of Bel-Air and she was able to sing along every words of the opening song (very impressive considering this show is like 20 years old I think). However she was even more impressed (shocked, aghast and quite possibly a little disturbed) that I was able to remember and say every line of that particular Friends episode. It wasn’t even that funny – The one with the Laundry Detergent – Uberweis. My talent is also not limited to that particular episode. You can play any episode from season 1 – 10 and I will be able to quote verbatim what they are going to say. This is what happens when you’ve watched the whole show more than 5 times.

I’m thinking I should market this particular skill of mine. I’m not sure how but I’m sure I can go onto some talent show and end up being discovered and making millions. Don’t worry I’ll remember all you little people when I make it to the top.



And we are living in a material world and I ain’t no material girl

They brag, They boast, They flash, They are all talk, oh you know the type. They grate on my last nerve.

Whatever you own or have just bought, They’ve got a better model or the latest version thereof. They can’t be beat.

They look down on others who are less fortunate, well at least who They perceive as being less fortunate or poor.

They feel compelled to tell you all about how well-travelled They are, even though we all know it was just a business trip.

They seem unable to stop collecting more and more possessions only to upstage everyone else.

They do not like to see anyone else succeeding and will distance Themselves from people who are wealthier than Them.

Belittling people is second nature to Them.

They live way above Their means just to get/keep/stay one step ahead.

They are misers. They are greedy. They are selfish.

They constantly talk about how much ‘charity’ They give. They need everyone to know what Good People They are.

But what They should know is that nobody envies Them because we know Their lives are empty and the only way for Them to feel better about Themselves is to buy more stuff. Sadly what They don’t realise that owning more things will never fill that void.

Life is too precious to value things that you cannot take with you to your grave. Life is too short to not enjoy the simple pleasures in life. Family, friends, sharing experiences, creating memories, doing things that fill us with joy, praying, having faith, believing that we all have a greater purpose and knowing someone up there is watching over us – these are the things that really matter.



There are so many things wrong with facebook I’m not even sure where to start but below is a list of the worst offences and offenders:

  • People who load a picture of their pet or child as their profile pic – I quite possibly haven’t seen you since high school so I probably won’t accept your friend request if I can’t figure out who you are.
  • Random invites especially from people who live in countries I’ve never heard of
  • Facebook book stalker friends who barely know you but like or comment on every status, picture, etc.
  • Provocative and inappropriate pictures – get career as a model, actress or porn star
  • Anyone who has over 5000 ‘friends’ – just get a fan page and get everyone to LIKE it because you cannot possibly have 5000 friends
  • Serial relationship status updaters – we get it, it’s complicated, so complicated in fact that more than half the time you are confused
  • Proclamations of love for your significant other – don’t worry you’ll see your ‘baby’ in a few hours and when you do please get it out of your system and GET A ROOM
  • The friend who posts and tags all photos including your drunkard weekends – not cool
  • People who make threats but don’t mention any names – if you have a problem with someone confront them – don’t be a coward and hide behind technology
  • The vague status update – does anyone actually know what you are talking about?
  • 😦 the sad face that will eventually prompt someone to ask what’s wrong
  • Profound, deep and spiritual statuses – we get it you are at one with the universe and have a direct link to a Higher Being or Deepak Chopra
  • Swear/Cuss words
  • Regular jetsetters who feel the need to rub into our faces that they are off yet again to see some exotic location
  • Non regular jetsetters who posts all and random pictures eg. This is a picture of our lunch. This is the picture of the toilet in our room.
  • Bizarre and cryptic posts done mostly by girls to confuse the guys – ladies men don’t give a tiny rats ass
  • Posts that encourages one to copy and paste if you care about cancer – seriously?!? I’ve lost family to cancer not posting does not mean I care any less.
  • Links to songs and youtube
  • Links to blogs (see I’m just as guilty but hey nobody is perfect)

I can’t think of any more but I’m sure there is plenty that I missed. Feel free to add to the list.


10 things I have learnt this week

1. It is still possible to feel real joy upon discovering something new

2. Cousins are your first real friends in this world

3. Standing in front of the classroom at 29 is just as scary as it was in high school

4. I am happy if my blog brings joy to people – even if it is only a handful

5. My oily t-zone is the bane of my existence – I’m not supposed to be getting pimples at this age

6. To blog is to do – one has to experience new things to have a constant source of writing material

7. Plinky prompt is great for writer’s block

8. I’ve been living under a rock all these years but am glad that I finally discovered the writer Paulo Coelho

9. I always thought autumn was my favorite season turns out I miss summer, sandals, shorts and maxi dresses

10. The people in your life don’t know you as well as they think they do