How to become a writer

The title of this post is misleading. I haven’t a clue on how to become a writer. I read writing blogs regularly for advice and tips and the only advice I really follow is to write often. I can see over time how my writing has evolved and progressed.

I am studying creative writing and recently completed my first writing portfolio. Today I received my marked portfolio back from the university and below are my lectuters comments:
On my book reviews: “Fine critical writing”
On my poems: “Good metaphors, effective ambiguity”
On my original young adult short story: “Very entertaining, intriguing fantasy with a good ending”
On my play: “Very good drama with interesting plot, good dialogue and conflict depiction and a good ending”
On top of all this I will be writing for the newly created travel section of a South African website. I am very excited about what the future may hold for me and I feel extremely blessed. None of this would have been possible if I didn’t actively pursue my dreams.


What is the true meaning of family?

Family is seeing and understanding pain and joy without having to say a word
Family is more than just blood and a genetic connection
Family is protecting and defending your own at great risk to yourself
Family is loving someone when you hate them and cannot bear to see them
Family is watching someone you love die and not moving but staying by their side
Family is getting the worst news in the world and laughing with one another
Family is the only constant you cannot escape
Family is about never really saying goodbye
Family is uncontrollable raw emotion, a never ending see-saw
Family creates pedestals to honour and praise their own
Family is knowing with absolute certainty that you are loved even when you are alone
Family is a reflection of our many selves
Family is believing in others when they do not believe in themselves
And it is family not hope that was all that was left in that box
I am leaving to live in Thailand in less than a week and the reality of it has just set in. My family will be dearly missed as well as many personal milestones. My thoughts, love and prayers will be with them for as long as I am away.
I forsee many tears ahead in this coming week.


If fear was a superhero…

If fear was a superhero its power would be to paralyse and he would be able to become more powerful by feeding off all our fears. It’s easy to call someone brave or be inspired because we doing it from behind our comfort zones. We can live vicariously through others and we can distance ourselves when they fail and silently be thankful that we didn’t take any risks, but this would be living half a life. I was listening to a song called Fear by Jazmine Sullivan (lyrics below) and it made me think how we allow fear to hold us back. It may be a normal human emotion but it is meant to fuel and propel us to greatness.


I’m scared to try cause I’m scared to fail
I’m scared to die cause I’m scared of hell
I’m scared to kiss scared to hug
I’m scared of sex cause I’m scared to touch
I’m scared to look cause I’m scared to see
I’m scared of you cause I’m scared of me
I’m scared to fly cause I’m scared to crash
I’m scared to move on so I live in the past
I’m scared to fight cause I’m scared to bleed
 I’m scared of love cause I’m scared he’ll leave
I’m scared of drugs I’m scared to drink
I’m scared to swim cause I’m scared to sink
I’m scared to learn cause I’m scared of truth
 Don’t wanna gain weight cause I’m scared of food
I’m scared to think that the label dropped me
I’m scared to think of my album flopping
This may sound silly but it’s true
So don’t pretend it ain’t you too
We all afraid of something here
Cause you ain’t human without fear
I’m scared to start cause I’m scared I’ll quit
I’m scared that people won’t like my shit
I’m scared of fame and paparazzi
Rumors starting and people watching
Scared to grow up cause I’m scared to get old
Scared of the dark and being alone
I’m scared of war I’m scared of jail
Scared to share a secret cause I’m scared you’ll tell
This may sound silly but it’s true
So don’t pretend it ain’t you too
We all afraid of something here
Cause you ain’t human without fear

What I will miss most about Cape Town

When you’re busy planning an adventure of a lifetime you tend to only look forward to all the new discoveries you will experience. I am bracing myself for a major culture as I have never travelled anywhere near to Asia. So it is then easy to forget that I will be leaving behind the most amazing place to live. Tourists flock here every year to marvel at Cape Towns beauty and despite warning about the high crime rate they leave speaking highly not only of the sights but the warm Cape Town hospitality. I’ve compiled a list of what I believe I will miss the most:

The view from where I live, i.e. the first thing I see everyday. Not waking up to this even for just a few days is hard, hell going for a drive on the other side of the mountain is hard. I am always amazed how excited I get when it comes into view whether is was for a few hours or days that I did not see it. I have never not appreciated this view and never get tired of it.

Table Mountain

Devil’s Peak

Lions Head

South African treats and snacks like biltong, mebos and my favourite chips Nik Naks – I will be grateful and forever indebted to the one who would send me care packages filled with these treats. Other food stuff that I will miss: Koeksisters, Samoosa, Salomies (curry wrapped in roti), Full House steak sandwiches, Fish and Chips (not only a British thing), Ostrich, Gatsby’s (foot long rolls filled with meat, chips and salad), Malva pudding and custard and the list goes on.

biltong, mebos, nik naks


Exploring Chapmans Peak

The beaches, yes I know I am going to a place renowned for its beaches but it’s just not the same. Maybe I like the long drives to the beaches more, I don’t know but it will be missed. Little harbours like Simonstown, Houtbay and Kalk bay – the train ride/journey along the beach is what makes visiting these places memorable.

Kalk bay

Long Street – there is a lot of hype around this one street even though Kloof street which is further along has just has many cool eating places to visit. It does however hold little gems like the hidden away sushi place Bamboo that I love and Lola’s which makes a cheesecake so delicious I would sell my mother for it and Royale Eatery famous for its gourmet burgers that will have you licking your fingers when you’re done.

Long Street Cafe, Long Street

And so many other little things like people watchings in St. Georges Mall, feeding squirrels at the Company Gardens, Minibus taxis.

Stall at St. Georges Mall



An idiosyncrasy can be described as an unusual feature of a person. It also means odd habit. The term is often used to express eccentricity or peculiarity.  A synonym may be a quirk. 

Growing up I was always encouraged to be different, not to follow the social norms and to follow my dreams no matter what. I was never outwardly a rebellious child but one the inside I was silently rebelling. Listening to Rock and Classical music instead of only RnB and Rap like all the other kids is but one example. I wasn’t trying to be something else I just simply was.

However the pressure of fitting in and doing the right thing started weighing down heavily on me in my early 20’s. I studied sensible subjects/courses in the hopes of securing a stable and sensible job so that I would be able to sensibly settle down with a bond, car payments all before th age of 30. Well nothing really went according to the original plan and the reason this plan was doomed to fail was because I was doing things to please others. I was being who I thought I was supposed to be and who I thought they wanted me to be.

I feel really fortunate and blessed that I am finally able to follow one of my dreams which is to work in a foreign country. The past few years was rough. I endured loss and heartache and there were moments when I thought there was never going to be light at the end of the tunnel. I am finally in a space where I don’t care what other think of me and it feels as though a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.

I am going to embrace my idiosyncrasies as these are the things that make me unique. A close friend told me recently that she feels her body is not perfect. She feels she needs to measure up to what the media is telling us what all women should look like. To which I replied you are perfect because there is only one version of you. I will never lose sight of myself again or the small things in life that brings me joy. People must stop calling me brave we are all capable of more than we know.

adventures, travel

They say change is as good as a holiday

‘They’ clearly don’t know what they talking about. A holiday is as good as a holiday. I decided I wanted a mini vacation before leaving for Thailand and this was probably one of the best decisions I made this year. I happen to be one of those people who struggles to do nothing for very long. I’m always busy doing something or planning something. It can get exhausting. To read more about my little holiday visit my BFF’s blog by clicking here.

This much needed and deserved time off made me realise that I need to take things more slowly. I need to stop cramming every second of my life with something to do. It’s ok to take it easy now and then. I don’t need to do it all or all the time. This urgency I feel to utilise my time wisely isn’t always a good thing. Sometimes one needs to lie on the beach, listen to the waves, soak up the sun and read a good book. Even though I realised I am way too much of a city girl, ‘roughing’ it in the middle of nowhere with the beach all to ourselves was just what I needed to recharge.

Here are some holiday snaps – Enjoy!